Beta kya banega? Doctor ya engineer?
Whether at a family friend’s house, or a birthday party, kids often face this question. If a child below the age of twelve replies with teacher, princess, magician, it is considered cute. A teenage however, is expected to respond with “doctor,” or “engineer”.
If a child is interested in something else than these options, they face follow-up questions about why they’d like to chose a different career. When I told one of my family friend that me and my husband are OK if our daughter wants to be an artist, she gave a confused look.
According to a survey, India is world’s suicide capital with 2.6 lakh cases/year and it breaks my heart to see kids going through so much pressure. Most parents do not even give kids the choice of choosing their own after-school activities. They are enrolled to classes often based on the parent’s interests.
There is lot of pressure on kids to excel in academics. This level of pressure at a young age, kills their creativity. Dreams to become a photographer and click pictures of animals all over the world or be the best singer in the world get crushed even before they realize.
Things that I want my daughters to know:
I will support your efforts, no matter what you want to do in life. Happiness is the best choice. I will support you to fulfil your dreams.
The possibilities are endless. Spread your wings as you can achieve whatever you want to if you try.
Do whatever makes you happy.
-Deepa Malhotra Gandhi; A dietician, choreographer, and a mother of two lovely kids