Yesterday visited our pediatrician for giving vaccine to my one year old son. When we were waiting to meet the doctor, a girl (should be 8 years) and her mom (in her 30’s) entered the clinic. I recognized them. They live in the same apartment. I have seen them in some community events but have not spoken so far. The girl was unusually silent and she was simply starring at my son who was playing with his toy car. The lady seemed busy with her phone.
My son accidentally hit the lady’s legs, and was about to fall. I picked my son and said “sorry”. She gave a friendly smile and said “no issues” and asked “Is this doctor good? This is the first visit for us” and added “My daughter has become very shy now-a-days. She looks tired always, and very silent. In school also her teachers have started complaining that she needs to improve on confidence. Some of my colleagues suggested that this doctor may help. That’s the reason we are here.” I replied “Yes I am very happy with this doctor, and added that I personally know him for the past 7 years”. After this much discussion, the attendant called our number. My son was given the vaccine. The doctor suggested that we wait for half an hour there. He wanted to observe my son.
Next the mom and her daughter that I talked about went inside. After 15 to 20 minutes, they came out of the chamber. The mother looked thoughtful after the consultation. The doctor told me “Spend at least 15 to 20 minutes with your daughter daily. Play/chat or at least listen to her. Otherwise, she will become silent, shy”.
This thought kept nudging me and I was thinking, “Where do we get time, Work – Life Balance – Not only parents, Kids are also busy in school, extra curricular activities, home work, projects, etc.”. To clarify myself started reading different articles and all of them confirmed that spending quality time with kids is very important to develop self confidence in them. And time with parents is an indicator for growth in to a cheerful kid.
Parents are the first teachers to every child. They trust their parents. They mimic them, and learn a lot from them. They look up to them as role models. Their habits, their likes and dislikes are most influenced by their parents. The same is true for children’s interests, their religious faith, their attitudes about learning and interest in other people, even the words that they learn. Parents have the most influence on all these things. It’s sobering, but true, that these determine how successful children will be in school and in life ahead.
Every parent try their best to provide the best education, nutrition, and environment to their children. However, one simple truth is often overlooked: Children from birth to adulthood need time and attention of their parents. The importance of this time is multi-fold. It helps in bonding. The child feels secure and important with this time called “love”. He or she gets an opportunity to model parent’s behavior. Also, the parent can observe and learn about the child’s strengths and weaknesses in order to better guide him. The child has a chance to voice his thoughts and feelings.
The time parents spend with children now will pay big dividends for the rest of their lives. Because children spell love as T-I-M-E. Multiple studies reveal that children are much more likely to develop emotional and behavioral disorders when they receive inadequate or poor parenting. Each study suggests the foundation of spending quality time with children as the first vital step to successful parenting. There are innumerable ways to spend activities with kids. Listed few of them to get started :
Outdoor activities including Cycling, walking, etc
Family meal time
Art / Craft activities
I request the readers to pull out half an hour from your schedule and invest with your kids. This should be tried irrespective of your circumstances. Trust me this is going to multiply in terms of success of your child in future. Children spell love as T-I-M-E!