I need a phone. Please give me that this year!!!

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“Meem …a mobile?” asked my 11 year old daughter. “Why do you require that?” I asked her. “I require that to call you  when I stay at home before you get back from work”. I thought for a while then replied “But you can always use our landline phone?” She answered “Please meem, you can give me your phone, and buy a new one for yourself. I do not mind using your present phone”….

She has been asking us for a mobile for quite some time now. We have been postponing her request. She takes my phone once every evening to check messages at the whatsapp group of her school batchmates. Now a days, even 6th standard kids have their whatsapp group. I sometimes monitor the messages to get a feel about their discussions. Their discussions center around wishing friends on birthdays, sharing class notes, travel, and sometimes jokes. And seems like many of them already have their own mobiles.

“Meem please tell me whether you plan to give it or not before my birthday this year”...and our discussion continues. “Why don’t you buy that with your own money? How much do you have now?” I tried not to disappoint her, and at the same time wanted her to earn a mobile if she is really desperate. Earn with her own money that she gets as a monthly allowance from us :). “It will take me a year and half to buy with my own money!”

Next morning, she seemed to be very active. Unlike other days, she woke up early, and started watering the plants in the balcony. “Meem from today onwards, I will help you with other household chores.” “That’s great, but what made you decide this?”, I asked. She mentioned “I want my mobile in another 6 months time. You have to compensate me for other work too. I want to earn double than that you give me now for watering the plants. I will wash my clothes, do dishes with you, and help you fold the clothes”….She actually has been doing all of those for the last few days!

“I need a phone. Please give me that this year!” Did I ask my parents for any such gifts when I was a kid? I was desperate to get a camera. Those days we had cameras where one had to buy the roll. And one did not have the option of seeing the pictures before developing the film into photos. I remember requesting my parents a lot, and finally getting to buy with my stipend money when I was in 11th standard. That was a proud day for me :)

“Actually you do not require a mobile phone, but want to be included in the group of friends with mobiles. Am I right?”, I asked. She hugged me and mentioned “How do you always get to know what I feel?”… “Because I am your mother”, I chuckle out. That night, we sat down and discussed about our concerns of handling a mobile to an 11 year old. She understood that. She promised us that she would use her mobile to pursue her interest of photography, and use it whenever absolutely required to connect to us!  A mobile is possibly on its way for her 6 months down the line, but she has to work hard to get it…

Dr. Ananya Chakraborty

From the Diary of a Dad

 

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Dearest Ton,
Just read this story. Imagine how hard would it have been to do this 200 years back! Studying and research were a male bastion. To be able to do research on maths and physics in those days being a woman would have been so incredibly hard. And then imagine that even though the many mathematicians were using her research she was not granted professor-ship because she was a lady – even when she said she’d would do it for free….
Imagine how far we have come from those dark days! Marvel at the tenacity of this amazing wonder woman! Think for a moment that you are Sofia Kovalevskaya and try to play that role for a few minutes in your mind. And once you are back to our times and as my beloved Ton, make up your mind to make the most of the opportunities that come your way…
Do go through the life of Sofia Kovalevskaya….
Love,
Baba


Hea! you are so slow in swimming…

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He is the most slowest in the swimming course.” No! I am not. “Then take this, Dum!!!” Dodo, what shall I do? All my swimming friends are teasing me that I am the slowest in the swimming course. “Okay Mittu, come here.  Look, each child has different manner and habit. So you do not need to start a fight between them, Okay?”

Okay! Mummy today, me and my friends teased Mittu. They teased me saying “he is the most slowest in swimming, ha-ha-ha!” No son, that is a bad habbit. “But mummy, why is it a bad habit? “Son, if you tease others, you may also be in great trouble in coming days. So do not tease others. Okay son?” Okay mummy. I understand that we should not overreact!

When you thought I wasn’t looking

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Original Poem by: Mary Rita Schike Korzan

Adapted by: Suchismita Sahu, Medico and Blogger

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you feed a stray dog
        And I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you bake my favorite cake for me
        And I learned that the little things can be the special things in life.
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I heard you say a prayer
        And I knew that there is a God I could always talk to, and I learned to trust in Him.
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you make a meal and take it to a friend who was sick
        And I learned that we all have to help take care of each other.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you give of your time and money to help people who had nothing
        And I learned that those who have something should give to those who don’t.
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you take care of our house and everyone in it
        And I learned we have to take care of what we are given.
When you thought I wasn’t looking,I saw you plant saplings
        And I learned we have to take care of Mother Nature like she takes care of us.
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you didn’t feel good
        And I learned that I would have to be responsible when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw tears come from your eyes
        And I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it’s all right to cry.
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw that you cared
        And I wanted to be everything that I could be.
When you thought I wasn’t looking I learned most of life’s lessons
        That I need to know to be a good and productive person when I grow up.
When you thought I wasn’t looking I looked at you
        And wanted to say, ‘Thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn’t’

 

Original Poem by: Mary Rita Schike Korzan

Adapted by: Suchismita Sahu, Medico and Blogger